We hear always a lot about sexual abuse or rape, special when an unknown person did it. The other parts what is very common today which gets a lot of publicity is sexual abuse of children.
But what about the victims who are sexual abuse from their spouses? There are two types of sexual abuse in a Relationship;
1. Been explodes to too much sexual activity from the spouse that physical scares appearing and damages to the organ.
2. The other part is withholding sexual activity from the spouse and using porn’s and/or other partners.
In both cases the abuser use their controlling power to destroy their partners self-esteem and self-confidents. This is the only way they can overpower their own emotional scares from their childhood, is to control and have power over another person and they believe that is reality of life.
They are very good in the game of an abuser! Every abuser is locked into a pattern of been lovely, charming and kind – the honeymoon phase, than they building up the tension until they explode and become a physical abuser, then they slip back into the sorry phase. There excuses are that it is not their fault, but someone pushed them to lose self-control and than they go back into honeymoon stage. It is a kind of a situation that they are the victim and the other needs to feel sorry for them and their behavior. In their eyes and in their mind it was never their fault. Each time the pattern repeats so more the victim will lose to get out of the relationship. They develop more the guilt that it was their fault and it will change as it was on the beginning, they will give up on themselves just to keep the abuser happy.
Most likely the abuser has a history of abuse in long-term form and done by someone nearest and dearest. They developed an identity disorder or also called multiple personality, which is the outcome from early childhood abuse through oral humiliation and physical abuse. This violation of trust leads into disorientation, fear, depression, and suicidal ideation, or into overwhelming emotional aggression which than transforms into violence, rage, and hatred to any other human.
The abused are deformed from the abuser, and many are develop a mental health disorder and dysfunctional behavior. The abuser always wants to be in control of the other person, and they will imprint it as a permanent presence into their victim’s mind. Abused or abuser never case the hurt, recrimination and they living in a denial or rationalization as a part of act in life.
Physical damage can easy be fixed, but emotional or verbal abuse is harder to erase out of the victims mind. Some are good to reprogram their mind and move on in life, like nothing ever happen before. While other get a handle on it until a situation comes up again which brings all memories and pain up to the surface.
In conclusion, any sexual or physical wound can heal, because our body will heal any kind of physical wound. Emotional wounds are very serious and when they are neglected, they will destroy the whole mental and physical health. The important part is to know why it is happen and learn out of it and than to move on with life by letting go the past. Every revenge or hatred to that person will only hurt themselves and keep them as prisoner in their own mind.
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